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Five17
What happened

this place isn't google.

google is google.

if you want to know stuff, you google.

if you want mellow and positive, you come here.

unless you're trying to use this place as google.

then we'll be uptight and negative.

you would have known this, 517

had you googled it

the end



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bart = this thread



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Kathaariancode
Also, thread is one of those "not what you say but how you say it" deals.

This, the name and way the OP approached this was in bad taste and put me off, as did the inherent discomfort of the topic itself, hence more of that back in response to him. I didn't read his coming in and asking as "mellow and positive" and if it had been handled a bit better I think the reaction would have been different.


Besides I don't think the responses were all that harsh, maybe a bit sarcastic but you guys should see what happens to people in other parts of the internet (I'm glad this place is different, FWIW).

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We are the ones who don't slow down at all...

Whats going on here people? He asked a question in poor tastes and is lacking in all forms of tact.........but c'mon guys...

Many of these responses seem like a fanatical defense against an exaggerated evil. Yes, the way he asked it was very very VERY stupid but this does not give anyone the right to dampen his forum experience. A subtle warning would have sufficed in place of the decidedly hostile sarcasm he/she received. This is not the way we should conduct ourselves.

To simplify: spread the peace and love!

please. op wanted tawdry gossip about abuse. let's move on dot org already.

Would it have been better with a more subtle username?

What if (s)he asked it like you ask a stranger for drugs?

"Say man. You got anything on that Sunset Tree I heard about?"

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Czaroline
Plus, how many of you followed Lalitree's blog, just because you wanted to know a little more about the inner workings of John's private life? just because she's an awesome musician in her own right not to mention a brilliant photographer and you like to see her work?

fix'd

*raises hand*



(That's all. I'm not going to justify this thread with any other response.)

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iwtkmahs
Would it have been better with a more subtle username?

What if (s)he asked it like you ask a stranger for drugs?

"Say man. You got anything on that Sunset Tree I heard about?"

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this issue is dead to me.

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The first thing that distinguishes a writer is that he is most alive when alone. - Martin Amis

If wife-swapping's too kinky, maybe another hand shandy?

Is water torture killing mankind's abiding humanitarian sense?

Internal wrangling towards kin means all heave sighs.

I see how you see what I did there with what I saw there. Almost.

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i.want.to.know.less.about.his.stepfather
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My kid has a social disability called Asperger's Syndrome that causes him to have an absolute lack of guile, or subtlety, as several sanctimonious assholes looking to prove their own value have put it. I'm not saying that JD has Asperger's, but The Sunset Tree struck a chord with me as an individual and as my son's father. Why can't you accept a person who finds -- in some of your favorite music -- something that he must know more about? Possibly because he's trying to understand himself?

Yeah, I'm drunk. Doesn't matter. Half of you are, too.

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StephenCrane
Asperger's Syndrome.

[www.mountain-goats.com]

It was a somewhat too blunt way to approach a delicate subject. People here are happy to share info, as long as it's not regarded as taboo. This issue, due to its personal nature, and the fact that none of us have first hand experience with the subject (JD's youth, not abuse in general), sits close to that line. People responded with snark, which I would say was not entirely innappropriate, but that snark did go on a bit too long.

And now, three pages in, we continue to discuss our second favorite issue (after tMG): the inclusiveness/exclusiveness of our community.

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StephenCrane
My kid has a social disability called Asperger's Syndrome that causes him to have an absolute lack of guile, or subtlety, as several sanctimonious assholes looking to prove their own value have put it. I'm not saying that JD has Asperger's, but The Sunset Tree struck a chord with me as an individual and as my son's father. Why can't you accept a person who finds -- in some of your favorite music -- something that he must know more about? Possibly because he's trying to understand himself?

Yeah, I'm drunk. Doesn't matter. Half of you are, too.

I have that, too, and I had not considered this issue from that perspective. It used to be rather crippling, but over the years I've learned to deal with it and interact with others to the point that it isn't really an issue for me anymore, aside from a bit of general social anxiety and awkwardness. As I previously said, my problem with this thread was never that the OP asked the question (though as Mike has pointed out, Google would have been preferable), but instead with how tactless their phrasing was, particularly in regards to the username. It is unfortunate that this thread is still continuing, but I feel that everyone's joking responses were not mean-spirited.

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Mercy for the Diaz Brothers!

i have that too.

and i'm drunk.

and my jokes are dispirited, never mean-spirited.

i'm gonna bump the bieber thread just for kicks.

While tMG fans are clearly awesome, intelligent and omniscient, I am not sure it is within our collective abilities to diagnose the OP with AS from a single post on a single forum.

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The first thing that distinguishes a writer is that he is most alive when alone. - Martin Amis

my first thought was cerebral palsy, but i'm nowhere near certified.

certifiable!

not certifed.

now where's that damn beiber thread......